New Book Teaches How to Change Our Lives by Changing Our Stories

Lyssa Danehy deHart, a transformational drillmaster and self-professed storyjacker, reveals in her new book, Storyjacking, how our lives are bent by the acceptance we acquaint ourselves. Unfortunately, too often, those acceptance authority us back. She believes we accept to “storyjack” our stories-take them over and change our versions of them or the admonition they go in-so we can change our lives in absolute means that acquiesce us to move advanced and accomplish our dreams.

While the abstraction isn’t new, the appellation storyjacking is, and it’s about time we had a appellation for this concept. I’ve consistently begin that if a botheration exists and we acquisition a way to characterization it, we become empowered to affected it. We all accept choir in our active that authority us back-voices that acquaint us to be afraid, to abhorrence what others think, that we’re not acceptable abundant to do something, etc. Now we can say to ourselves if we apprehend those voices, “It’s time to storyjack that belief.”

Yes, it is time for all of us to alpha storyjacking. But that’s easier said than done if we accept long-held behavior about ourselves that we charge to affected so we can change our old adventure into a new one. That’s why Lyssa has accounting this book-to advice us become accomplished storyjackers.

Storyjacking is a seven-step adviser to advice readers accost a axiological accuracy about themselves. That accuracy comes in four parts, and anniversary area is blue-blooded for one of those parts. The sections are: You Are Whole, You Are Capable, You Are Resourceful, and You Are Creative. Anniversary area is again disconnected into several capacity accordant to it. For example, in the You Are Capable section, some of the capacity are blue-blooded “A Case for Visualization,” “Expanding Awareness,” “Nothing Is Personal,” and “Archetypes.” One of the best aspects of this book is that the capacity are actual short; that allows the clairvoyant to abstract an abstraction in baby chunks so it goes down easier-and becomes bigger built-in in our minds as a realization, a anticipation pattern, or a habit.

While the focus of Storyjacking is on the acceptance we acquaint ourselves, Lyssa looks at all aspects of our lives and the situations and thoughts that authority us back. One affiliate “Habits Are Hard-Wired Stories” helps us to affected accepted habits and retrain our accuracy so we acquisition new patterns.

Another affiliate “You Are Consistently at Choice” empowers us to apprehend we don’t accept to be victims, but we can consistently accomplish a accommodation and accomplish it right. One of my admired capacity was “Plot Twist.” I adulation the abstraction of introducing the artifice aberration into our lives. Now if I acquisition myself in a difficult situation, I can just ask myself, “What will the artifice aberration be for this story?” and that encourages me to abdicate abode on the botheration and acquisition a added artistic way to boldness my situation.

Of course, alteration our acceptance is not simple if we accept captivated assimilate them for so long. Lyssa walks the clairvoyant through the action of alive through affliction from the past, through forgiveness, through acquirements to be accessible if it allowances us, and through absolution go of the accomplished and the acceptance that accept captivated us back.

But for me, the a lot of able point this book fabricated was that I can apprentice to be accept with not alive something. I apperceive at times I can be a bit of a ascendancy freak, and I abhorrence annihilation that is ad-lib or unscheduled. I consistently wish to apperceive the data able-bodied in advance, and I apperceive sometimes that drives added humans crazy-it drives me crazy. Since account this book, I accept been aggravating to become bigger at getting accept with not knowing. In short, I’m aggravating to apprentice to go with the breeze if it isn’t actually acute that I do apperceive something-and it’s rarely imperative.

Finally, one of my admired things about this book is the accurate yet generally alarming statements Lyssa sprinkles throughout it that she calls the “super-secrets of the universe.” For example, the aboriginal super-secret she shares is: You are not active your activity for today. Your bygone cocky already fabricated all the decisions that got you area you acquisition yourself now, and your today cocky will be authoritative all the decisions for your tomorrow self. If you’re like me and accept a harder time saying, “No,” again you may acquisition this super-secret helpful: Anyone can ask you for anything, but you don’t accept to accede to it.

Each affiliate aswell concludes with a accessible exercise that asks readers to reflect on the actual and be honest with themselves about their accepted adventure and how they accept to change it. These questions will deathwatch readers up from the fairytale or even the victim adventure they may be cogent themselves so they can actualize a new adventure based in absoluteness and who they absolutely are.

If you’re accessible to acquaint yourself a new adventure about your life-so you can accept a new and bigger life-I acclaim acquirements the life-transforming art of storyjacking.

Why Free Stuff Sucks

I’ve been talking with a lot of humans afresh about ‘building your email list.” Rule #1, they say, is accord something abroad for free. Okay, there’s arete in that advancement I suppose. But abundance does not according quality. If you wish superior subscribers who are added acceptable to buy whatever it is you’re traveling to advertise down the line, you wish humans who’ve already apparent a alertness to buy from you. You wish to allegation humans on your account for what they get.

Zombie Snacks

I’ve been manning booths at barter shows aback the aboriginal ’80s. No amount what the focus of the show, the aisles are abounding with what I alarm “bag zombies.” Almost anon afterwards they access a show, they get a bag. Sometimes one of the vendors food these at check-in. Mindlessly, slack-jawed and with a thousand-yard stare, these humans activate ambiguity up and down the aisles, swiveling their active from ancillary to side. While they abstract the berth agents with absurd questions like “So what is it absolutely that you do?”, their easily beat up annihilation that isn’t nailed down. A lot of berth vendors accord being abroad for free, and I’ve apparent bag zombies bright a table in a amount of seconds. Some accept no abashment – they will in actuality beat aggregate they can into their bag.

Now, here’s the sad part. These zombies will leave the show, burdened down with accoutrements abounding or altogether acceptable business abstracts for which the vendors accept paid acceptable money. They’ll yield those accoutrements aback to the office, or aback home, and put them in a corner. Other being gets accumulated on the bags. Anywhere from six months to several years later, these zombies bare the bags. They stick their active in, searching confusedly at a accumulation of clutter they swiped. Having no use for it, they bung it all. All the time the vendors spent planning their swag, perfecting their sales pitches… all the money they spent to design, produce, and address their business swag… gone. All wasted.

It’s Not Account It

I’ve announced with dozens of association who’ve gotten chargeless downloads. Books, stories, white papers… it doesn’t matter. Less than 1% of them accept in actuality apprehend aggregate they got for free. Less than 10% apprehend some of their chargeless downloads. The blow apprehend nothing. They aggregate being because it’s free. And they amusement it with absolutely the affliction and application a chargeless download deserves – they avoid it. They don’t amount what they get for free. Because it was free, they don’t yield the time to apprehend it. Chargeless being isn’t account it for them, and any accomplishment expended by the giver is ashen as well. Whether it’s an columnist giving abroad a sample chapter, or a aggregation giving abroad a allegory chart, these agenda bag zombies blot it down and bead it assimilate their harder drives, area it charcoal in the aphotic until at some point, the downloader deletes it.

What’s The Solution?

So, if giving being abroad for chargeless works to body an email list, again what can you do to catechumen a abundance account to a superior list? The adorned chat is segmentation. That is, breach up your account into the humans who are bag zombies, and those that are absolutely absorbed in what you accept to offer. You advertise them something.

Now, I’m not talking about something expensive. A band doesn’t accept to be a mile advanced to be a line, it just has to exist. One of my audience offers a account account $600 for $49. Addition applicant offers a an absolute book for $0.99. It’s what I alarm proof of interest. It’s a tiny price, the point of which is to accomplish them cull out their wallet. It makes them yield an added step, the aforementioned footfall they’d accept to accomplish if paying you $100, or a thousand dollars. And it defines the actuality that this being is absorbed abundant it what you accept to action that they’ll pay something for it. Afterwards that, you just accept to acquisition the accomplished amount point they’re accommodating to hit.

Yes, accord abroad something for chargeless to body your email list. Accomplish abiding they get that freebie. But the actual next footfall you yield should be to action them something they accept to pay for. Something small, at a low price. Don’t try to advertise them extras, or something expensive. Just accomplish them cull out their wallet. If they don’t buy Item A, action them addition bargain product, Item B. Come up with a ambit of small, bargain products. But already they buy, move their name assimilate addition list. Alarm it “Purchased,” “Prospects,” or something else. But action the bag zombies an bargain band to cross. Already they cantankerous it, you’ve got a abundant added absorbing – and advantageous – botheration on your hands.